What the F@#!K
While writing my book Dear Jack, a love letter, I used my own style of writing, which is the way I speak. There is no fan fare, my vocabulary is average, my descriptions are perhaps not as flowery and refined as an experienced writer/author. So, I just wrote like me, problem is I swear a lot!
When my editor read her first pass, it was obvious she didn’t think it was necessary to swear throughout the book in every chapter, sometimes in every paragraph. I have come to a place where I have no filter. I say everything as I see and feel it. Without a filter it is possible that I may offend people. I don’t have time to tip toe around issues, so I get right to the point. My swearing to me is more of an exclamation point!!! I swear because I am passionate about what I believe, I need to be heard loud and clear and I find this helps.
Below is a link to psychology today. Hell Yes. The 7 best reasons for swearing. I knew it.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201205/hell-yes-the-7-best-reasons-swearing
Pain Relief Swearing activates the “fight or flight”response, leading to a surge of adrenaline and a corresponding analgesic effect.
Power and Control Swearing gives us a greater sense of power. We are not passive victims, we are empowered.
Non-violent retribution Swearing enables us to get back at bad actions with out violence.
Humor Swearing with friends can be hilarious.
Self-expression Swearing helps show what is important to us.
Improved psychological and physical health Health benefits include increased circulation, elevated endorphins and a sense of calm, control and well-being.
Watch Ellen and Tracee Ellis Ross on swearing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vI9vvJbnlXE
So, there! I wish I didn’t take all the swearing out of my book. It was advised that I limit my choice or “curse words”
I wish I listened to my f@#!!king intuition.
: ) I love you barb…. and the way you write I can close my eyes and hear you saying the words….. X
thanks lynnie